A Dad’s Letter to his Daughter in the Womb

A Dad’s Letter to his Daughter in the Womb

A dad's letter to his daughter in the Womb

To My Daughter:

When you were only 4 weeks in the womb, I saw your heart beating on the ultrasound, It was one of the most monumental moments of my life. I saw your heart and it was beautiful. We didn’t know anything about you, but we loved you…immensely.


You were only a visible heart, but you won ours.

To be honest, I’m scared out of my mind. In only a few more months you will be in my arms. I don’t want to fail you as your dad. Absent fathers are an epidemic. Research demonstrates being engaged as a father affects “social, behavioural, and psychological outcomes.” Your emotional health is dependent on me? Will I deliver? Will I be a good dad? Will I be a good husband? How will I balance everything? Will I work too much?

“I don’t know if I want to have children,” your mom stated before we got engaged. “If this is a non-negotiable for you, we don’t have to get married.” She will always be my priority and I hope you will see this as you grow. I married her because I was first and foremost in love with her. But, I also secretly knew she’d eventually want to have you.

Your mom is intuitive. Two years ago we didn’t know we were gonna have a daughter, but she started an Instagram account for you. We’re already out-of-touch with the times parents. Instagram will certainly not be cool when you’re a teenager.

I want to apologize in advance. I’m already feeling super protective. When a guy wants to take you to a dance or on a date, I’ll say, “No.” Ok, I might relent, provided I can supervise the entire date. I wrote this book called 10 Ways to Win a Girl’s Heart, and I now see this as my manifesto on how you are going to be pursued. Before a boy wants to even call you, he’s gonna have to do a full book report…and then I’ll grade it. Even a “B” will mean “Block” on the phone.

I hear things in a new way. I see things in a new way. I want you to have opportunity. I want you to reach your full potential and leave an indelible mark on your generation and this world. You are powerful and you will carry yourself like royalty. You won’t settle for second best because you will know your worth.

I saw a picture of you running through a field of flowers, yellow like your blonde hair. I saw you full of wonder, in love with fantasy and fairy tale stories and movies. I saw you listening to and consoling others. I saw you drawing your visions with chalk on the side walk. I saw you as one who loves people and loves life. You are truly intricately and wonderfully made!

You started as a heart

I love you. I pray for you every day and will continue to do so. It’s only appropriate you started as a heart. May it be full of life. May it guide your steps. May it love extravagantly and may it be your gift to God.


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8 Responses to A Dad’s Letter to his Daughter in the Womb

  1. Heather Laatikainen February 1, 2017 at 7:34 pm #

    Beautiful!!! You’re going to be most amazing father, daddy, papa and safe place, ever for your princess. I know what a perfect father’s love feels like…. she’s the luckiest little angel. ❤

    • Kris Wolfe February 1, 2017 at 11:16 pm #

      We get to see her face for the first time tonight. We are seeing her in 3-D. Thank you so much, Heather. Phew, I sure hope so!

      • Julie February 2, 2017 at 3:28 am #

        It will be 3-D delight for you and Kristen! Can’t wait to see her sweet precious face. Maybe she won’t be so shy this time. Baby Wolfe will absolutely treasure the inspirational words you have written especially for her.

  2. Matthew Kasinec February 3, 2017 at 1:21 am #

    I’m truly excited for you Kris! Your daughter will quickly grow to become a strong woman of God, especially with your leadership and support.

    • Kris Wolfe February 13, 2017 at 9:37 am #

      Thank you, Matt. We are praying over her every night, and that doesn’t return void!

  3. Dorothy February 3, 2017 at 5:47 am #

    Very sweet! I always thought an embryo heart did not begin to beat until 6 weeks!

    • Kris Wolfe February 3, 2017 at 8:48 pm #

      These pics were at 4 weeks. We had to go in early because Kristen was so sick. He thought we might be having twins. But, all we could really see was the heart.


  1. A Daddy's Letter and Seeing Baby in 4D | She is MORE - February 6, 2017

    […] There were three hilights this week. First, Kris surprised me by writing a letter to our daughter in my womb. On Wednesday morning, he said, “Do you want to read the letter I wrote out daughter?” Apparently he had been working on it over a week and of course I was excited to see what was in his heart. People say that men usually want to have boys and are slightly disappointed to have a girl, but Kris has really stepped up to the plate and expressed so much love and delicacy over her already. I began reading his letter and started crying by line two. He ended up posting it on his blog later that day and you can check it out here. […]

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