A Dad’s Letter to his Daughter in the Womb
To My Daughter:
When you were only 4 weeks in the womb, I saw your heart beating on the ultrasound, It was one of the most monumental moments of my life. I saw your heart and it was beautiful. We didn’t know anything about you, but we loved you…immensely.
You were only a visible heart, but you won ours.
To be honest, I’m scared out of my mind. In only a few more months you will be in my arms. I don’t want to fail you as your dad. Absent fathers are an epidemic. Research demonstrates being engaged as a father affects “social, behavioural, and psychological outcomes.” Your emotional health is dependent on me? Will I deliver? Will I be a good dad? Will I be a good husband? How will I balance everything? Will I work too much?
“I don’t know if I want to have children,” your mom stated before we got engaged. “If this is a non-negotiable for you, we don’t have to get married.” She will always be my priority and I hope you will see this as you grow. I married her because I was first and foremost in love with her. But, I also secretly knew she’d eventually want to have you.
Your mom is intuitive. Two years ago we didn’t know we were gonna have a daughter, but she started an Instagram account for you. We’re already out-of-touch with the times parents. Instagram will certainly not be cool when you’re a teenager.
I want to apologize in advance. I’m already feeling super protective. When a guy wants to take you to a dance or on a date, I’ll say, “No.” Ok, I might relent, provided I can supervise the entire date. I wrote this book called 10 Ways to Win a Girl’s Heart, and I now see this as my manifesto on how you are going to be pursued. Before a boy wants to even call you, he’s gonna have to do a full book report…and then I’ll grade it. Even a “B” will mean “Block” on the phone.
I hear things in a new way. I see things in a new way. I want you to have opportunity. I want you to reach your full potential and leave an indelible mark on your generation and this world. You are powerful and you will carry yourself like royalty. You won’t settle for second best because you will know your worth.
I saw a picture of you running through a field of flowers, yellow like your blonde hair. I saw you full of wonder, in love with fantasy and fairy tale stories and movies. I saw you listening to and consoling others. I saw you drawing your visions with chalk on the side walk. I saw you as one who loves people and loves life. You are truly intricately and wonderfully made!
I love you. I pray for you every day and will continue to do so. It’s only appropriate you started as a heart. May it be full of life. May it guide your steps. May it love extravagantly and may it be your gift to God.