A Gentleman Protects His Girl These 7 Ways

A gentleman protects his girl….


When a man is confident within himself, and understands his self-worth, he can be a source of strength. On the flip side, a man lacking confidence can be draining or even dangerous.

Women are attracted to confident men because they want a protective man, just not overprotective.

Men are naturals when it comes to protecting the people they care about. Why are men protective? A true gentleman protects his girl by deep moral standards within.

Here are 7 ways a gentleman protects his girl:

1. A Gentleman Protects Her From Harm

Throughout his pursuit of her, she feels safe because a true gentleman keeps the creepers away. He’ll avoid a fight when possible, but he’s not afraid to engage if it means protecting his girl. He walks her to her car and/or walks her to her door at the end of the night.

2. A Gentleman Protects Her From The Elements

As we already discussed in 21 Lost Gentleman Traditions, he walks closest to the street to protect her from puddles that might splash. He holds an umbrella for her when it’s raining, and he offers his coat when it’s cold. He’ll sacrifice his personal comforts to ensure she feels comfortable.

3. A Gentleman Protects Her Heart

He makes a commitment and keeps it; no games needed. He calls when he says he’s going to call. He asks her on a real date, and is clear on his intentions. If a gentleman is interested in a girl, he won’t ask her to “hang out.”

He protects her heart by guarding his own. She’ll never catch him staring at other women. He won’t cheat on her, and he keeps boundaries when he talks to other women.

Pride will not keep a gentleman from apologizing when he makes a mistake.

A true gentleman is one that apologizes anyways, even though he has not offended a lady intentionally. He is in a class all of his own because he knows the value of a woman’s heart. -Shannon L. Alder

4. A Gentleman Protects Her Reputation

When a girl is with a gentleman, she’ll never have to make the walk of shame. He’ll never brag about his exploits with her. He stands up for the relationship, and he isn’t afraid to introduce her as his girlfriend.

5. A Gentleman Protects Her Feelings

He compliments her, and he notices the small things that matter most to her.

When she’s had a bad day, a way too early morning, or she’s “hangry,” he knows when to keep his mouth shut. He prioritizes what’s important to argue about and what to let go. A gentleman is never passive aggressive. He knows when he’s gone too far.

6. A Gentleman Protects Her Sexually

Though sexual chemistry is high, a gentleman’s intent is never a one-night stand. When a woman is with a gentleman, she feels safe, and she knows he’s not going to take advantage of her when or if she’s vulnerable.

He doesn’t look at porn because he understands this can hurt intimacy with her, and he’s also open about his history. If he’s been sexually active, he’s not afraid to get tested.

7. A Gentleman Protects Her Spiritually

He prays with her and for her. He prays for his future wife. A gentleman understands words are powerful. Truth, peace, honor, respect, and virtue are weapons, and he uses them like a champion gladiator.

A gentleman does more than protect his woman from harm. He protects her heart, her reputation, and her feelings. He guards her sexually and spiritually. In short, he protects her mind, body, and soul.

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18 Responses to A Gentleman Protects His Girl These 7 Ways

  1. Scythian Arrows February 4, 2015 at 4:45 pm #

    Either women need to be protected and sheltered (and denied the franchise, or all else is just pointless), or they are “strong, smart, and independent” and can fend for themselves just fine.

  2. JOHN MICHAEL LEVESQUE July 17, 2016 at 10:19 am #

    I know how to be s gentleman especially with a women. I am a gentleman always in public. Its when i am at my house i get fussy and irratated agitated frustated and i protest and show my carelessness and dare you to be agitated irratated frustrated and fussy. If only I had my ministry and businesses underway I would be a gentleman all the time. I wouldn”t couldn’have time to fuss or fight or think about being watched and recorded. TRY ME YOU HAVE TO TRY TO GET THE RESULTS YOU want to. Am I right. Surely you are invested so much you have to keep going with faith, hope, courage, fearless, perseverance. UO me and IOU that much. Put together a committee or a board of directors or something like that with funders with creative ideas and have an interest in what happens to their generous offerings and allows me to be most of the part making final agreement.
    Just do it. Now or never. ASAP AsApeople

    • Kris Wolfe July 22, 2016 at 6:51 pm #

      I used to have some of these mindset as well, John. “If I only had” plagued me. But, you can never have what you don’t already have. What do I mean by that? Start living as if you already have it. It’s a game changer.

  3. The Diamond October 3, 2016 at 4:40 am #

    I am greatful that I got a chance to read (The 7 Ways a Gentleman Protects His Girl.) It really gave me an Epiphany to think about. I almost started to give up on men being gentlemen until I happened to meet one. I can truly say that he was the first gentlemen that I have ever met before in my life. He was a little aggressive when it came to me and other men trying to get my attention.

    • Kris Wolfe October 7, 2016 at 6:14 am #

      Thank you for commenting. I’m happy you met a gentleman. Are you still with him?

    • silver lining August 13, 2020 at 7:44 pm #

      If he is that aggressive…there is NOTHING wrong with it. He truly admires and loves you, and he has seen the other side of men you haven’t. He is willing to go through hell and back for you. He might be a little insecure, or SEEM TO BE>>> HE IS NOT! He knows what he is protecting is in HER interest, not his. Love him back….whatever you do. Don’t let him go.

  4. john Q February 24, 2017 at 6:44 am #

    I have a question. What you do if another woman call your girl the B word or anything else?
    how do you deal with that without harming both sides?

    • Kris Wolfe February 25, 2017 at 9:11 am #

      You gotta stand up for your girl, but you should also ask her how she’d want you to respond. Every girl is different.

  5. Whats normal May 17, 2018 at 12:31 pm #

    My partners bosses girlfriend, sent me disgusting insulting and messages via text, a number of times, insulting me in as many ways she could. She also insulted my partner. All this because we started a friendship about 6 months ago, but I soon found out they were lying to me about something I kept asking them out right about. So when I found out, I politely said you’re lovely people but it’s not the kind of friendship I’m looking for as I do not accept lying, especially ongoing no matter how many times I asked them to be transparent with me, and I distanced myself. I also found out that they do drugs and use cocaine heavily. Another reason I do not want to engage with them.
    4 months later I started receiving really disgusting messages from her at all hours of the night, just ripping me apart from my physical looks, to my character, to my intelligence and labelling me pathetic over and over.

    My partner says I’m a child for letting it get to me, and that I must get over it.
    He did nothing to stand up for me.
    After a lot of talking to him, he said he will talk to his boss and ask him to ask her to stop messaging me. The boss just laughed.

    I sent her a message saying I strongly suggest you stop harassing me. I woke up the next morning with more insulting attack messages from her.

    Yesterday, my partners bosses girlfriend drove up to their work, she had a bunny in the car. My partner said hello to her, spoke to her for a bit, (in his words, was polite with her), and checked out the bunny, engaged for about 5 minutes with her. And then left.

    I feel really hurt by the fact that he engaged with her at all, considering.

    I feel like there is no show of solidarity with me from him. And no sense of protecting me or my honour.

    I don’t expect him to stand up for me in the way of confronting her at all. But the least he could have done was not engage. As in, just say “Hi” civilly and then walk away.

    I just feel he is never in my corner, and instead attacks me for being upset by this, saying that I’m a child for expecting him to disengage and for standing in my corner.

    She’s quite vicious and she will definitely see him engaging with her as a sign that he’s not standing with me on this. And she will find satisfaction in that. (which I don’t care about).

    Please can you advise if I am overreacting?

    The boss doesn’t have much respect or love towards his girlfriend, so it’s not like my partner walking away and disengaging would affect his job.

    This is just the latest example of him not standing in my corner, making me feel alone and needing to fend for myself and if I expect anything from him, then I am an “infant” in his eyes, “pathetic and wasting his life with insignificant issues”.

    • Kris Wolfe May 18, 2018 at 1:57 am #

      It sounds like a number of issues are occurring. Does an HR exist at the company? Have you spoke to your partner about this?

      • Whats normal May 18, 2018 at 9:32 am #

        Hi Kris, thanks so much for your response.

        There’s no HR at the company. And my partners contract ends with the company at the end of June this year.

        My partner isn’t interested in my feelings about this unfortunately. He believes he should not have to protect me or stand up for me, or even simply disengage, he just tells me I’m not an infant that needs looking after.

        • Whats normal May 18, 2018 at 9:34 am #

          * In general, not just about this situation, he states his job is not to protect me, as I’m not an infant.

          • Kris Wolfe May 21, 2018 at 8:05 am #

            I don’t know all sides of the situation, but in general, I don’t have to see everything. If someone hurts my wife, they get shunned by me, even at my cost. It’s pretty black and white.

  6. Kay December 5, 2018 at 5:55 pm #

    Wife of 27 years here…I completely disagree with your partner. While I am perfectly capable of taking care of myself, I need to know that my husband has my back (and I have his). It’s not a matter of one of you being a child, it is a matter that you are a team and the world should never doubt that. While I don’t know your situation or that of your partner, from where I sit, it looks as if your partner isn’t ready to be an adult.

  7. Bob B. December 3, 2019 at 12:28 pm #

    I have a question. I’ve been casually dating a woman for about 2 1/2 months. I’ve been wanting to take our relationship to the next level and be exclusive but she is reluctant and is still dating other men. I wasn’t technically her Boyfriend yet. She recently broke it off with me, her reason was I’m not being her protector. How is it possible to be her protector if she won’t give me more of her emotional self. Allow us to grow our relationship and actually love each other. She was very guarded and only shared about 25% of her personal life with me. After 2.5 months I didn’t know her last name, birthdate, where she lived, her son’s name, her favorite color or her fondest childhood memory. How could I evolve to love and protect her with that wall in front of me? I am always the gentleman and listen intently to her. I wanted to instinctively protect her but instead had to consciously do it which doesn’t work. The heart trumps the brain every time.


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