The tide has changed. Online dating has become common. How do you create an online dating profile that stands out?
Last night, after our Los Angeles men’s group, some of the guys stuck around and got on the ever popular subject–dating. Despite a large population of young singles in LA, no one can seem to find a good girl. Where else can one turn? The discussion quickly moved into dating apps.
I had no idea dating apps have become so popular. I’m talking real popular. One of the guys showed us he had a Tinder tattoo! Upon revealing the brazen flame forever etched upon his skin, another asked, “Isn’t Tinder a hook-up app?”
“Tinder is what you make it. It’s a reflection of you,” he replied. “What you put out there is what you will get.”
I never thought I’d experience an “Ooooooo” moment discussing dating apps, but he revealed great wisdom and made a really good point: like does attract like. You can interpret it any way you want. Some might call it the “law of attraction.” Bottom line is,
You Get Who You Are When You Create An Online Dating Profile
In my book 10 Ways To Win A Girl’s Heart, I use the saying, “You don’t get who you want, you get who you are.” My friend Wali takes it a step further–to his online profile.
“I make my online dating profile a true reflection of me,” he said. “Overall, I’ve met some amazing people on dating apps: lawyers, doctors, Academy Award winners, and more.”
If your online profile is authentic and genuine, other authentic and genuine people will most likely take interest. On the flip side, if your profile is insincere, don’t be surprised if that’s what you get.
Should you mention God?
Wired recommends not mentioning religion. “‘God’ is poorly rated all around, so uphold the separation of church and date.” On the other hand, if your faith is important, maybe weeding potentials down isn’t such a bad thing. CrossPaths is a new dating app that allows users to see where you and others are on a “faith spectrum.”
What should I hide?
Not much. Why be dishonest? There’s a good chance you’ll attract someone who’s hiding something too. Use a recent pic and don’t lie about your size or height. Not to mention, if you finally get to a date, and she notices your fudge, you’ve lost trust.
How do I describe myself?
Men’s Fitness recommends avoiding common descriptions. For instance, “instead of saying, ‘I’m witty’…say, ‘I’m one part Ricky Gervais, one part Jon Stewart, and a soupcon of Fred Flinstone.'” You have permission to be creative.
How do I present myself?
A week ago, we were hanging out with a buddy and a girl he’d met on a dating app. She said she liked his profile because it showed off his active and adventurous lifestyle. Match recommends you “tell a story with your pictures.” Pick photos that showcase your hobbies and interests.
Bottom line is, don’t get too wrapped up trying to create an online dating profile that stands out. Rather, create an online dating profile that’s the truest reflection of you.