Are You A Honda Trying To Date A Porsche?

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Are you a Honda? No, this is not a personality test. Haven’t you had enough tests, strangers, and broken relationships define who you are? Isn’t it time you make a declaration of who you’re going to be?

A few years ago, I was hopeless. I believed I had no chance of getting married. I met with my pastor at the time after a break-up (more or less ghosted) and he told me, “You’re a Honda trying to date a Porsche.”

Something set me off.

“I’m not a Honda!!”  I thought.

I read a great analogy from my friend Toure Robert’s in his new book about how a turtle grows when it’s given a bigger space to live….the bigger the box, the bigger the turtle will grow. Who do you let speak into your inner being? Are the people around you encouraging and pushing you beyond your borders, or confining you and your future into a tiny box? Are they building you up or tearing you down? Are they giving you hope or telling you to settle?

What do you speak to yourself? What you believe about yourself is who you are going to be. The inner voice that plays on repeat becomes everything you do.

Luckily, I have the most amazing friends in LA. When I told them what the pastor said to me, they told me I’m a Bugatti. I didn’t believe them at first. I mean, c’mon, I’m from southern Missouri. I was skinny and not that popular. But, they were relentless in drilling the Bugatti message into my head week upon week.

It wasn’t too long before I was telling myself, “You are definitely not a Honda!”

Why did it take me so long to understand the power with words, especially those I spoke to myself? What you put in, you get out. I understood it in the context of sports and business. I knew that if I practiced and trained, I would become a better athlete. I knew that if I got out there and sold, my sales would increase. What you speak to yourself, and what you allow to be spoken, will affect who you are as a person. No wonder top athletes pay sports psychologists. Michael Gervais, a sports psychologist, says:

Most of us want to grow, but few want to do the hard work to change. The greatest have a vision, and they commit to follow it. They have great capacity to experience what’s uncomfortable, because they know that’s the way to self-mastery.”

Go outside your comfort zone.

Ok, well since you were expecting some questions to find what type of car you are, here are a few:

  1. What type of car do you think you are?
  2. What type of car do your friends say you are?
  3. What type of car do you want to be?
  4. Who should you surround yourself with to help you realize that dream?

Let’s tally this score up and see what type of car you are.

And the results are in! You determine who you are going to be. Know yourself. It doesn’t matter what kind of circumstances you might be in. As the cliché goes, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.” Do whatever it takes…

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6 Responses to Are You A Honda Trying To Date A Porsche?

  1. 1 + The One April 16, 2014 at 7:39 am #

    I am a Porsche!! lol
    Thanks a lot for this.. Sometimes it’s easier to think of yourself as less than who you are

  2. Jason H. Bullock April 16, 2014 at 1:52 pm #

    I’m a Bentley Continental GTC. I was just reading about the power of words, and their effects. It’s true “What you say, is what you get”. Good article Kris

  3. Alex Shvenda April 16, 2014 at 3:21 pm #

    Good point of view 🙂 You should try new awesome tool that help detect not just your personality but also get to know how you compare with others. Here it is

  4. Dakota Lally July 19, 2016 at 5:40 am #

    1. I think I’m a Chevy Aveo.
    Not popular, reliable, but with a multitude of problems.
    2. When I bought an Aveo, my ex-girlfriend/co-worker said “That’s such a ‘you’ car!”, so I think it’s safe to say friends say i’m an Aveo.
    3. I want to buy a newer one. New, and with less problems.
    So I would say that I want to change my downsides, become a newer person, but maintain reliability and low popularity.
    4. Not sure what kind of crowd I could surround myself with to achieve this, part of not wanting to be popular means my “crowd” is co-workers. A change of job is in planning, but loyalty to my company holds that back.

    • Kris Wolfe July 22, 2016 at 6:49 pm #

      Dakota, I can certainly relate. I’m not a proponent of an overinflated ego, but I would definitely take a look at yourself in a bigger picture sense. On the other hand, my dad is a Chevy dealer, so I love Chevy’s and think they are amazing cars!


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