Today I was waiting in a doctor’s office. In case you don’t know what I do, I’m a pharma representative. In comes this elderly man pushing his wife in a wheel chair. I’m not sure what condition she had, but she was unresponsive. In fact, it appeared her husband took care of everything for her. He wheeled her up right next to me and winked at me as he sat behind her with his hand on her shoulder. He must’ve sensed she was cold, so he got up and put a jacket around her shoulders. Then he opened up a folder and started to look through her medical records. I’ve never quite experienced anything like this before, but I was overwhelmed by the love he had for her. It was intense and unconditional. This was a man who stood strong and kept his wedding vows “through thick and thin.” He may have been physically frail, but he was mighty. His character was strong like an oak. You could tell he has been taking care of her for some time, but the routine wasn’t old. He was so careful and gentle with her, and he carried on a conversation with her even though she wasn’t coherent. This is what true love looks like.
It made me realize this kind of love is rare today, but even more so, this kind of man is rare today. There was something legendary about him. In fact, I was disappointed when I was called to go back because I wanted to sit and study this man and his wife for hours.
We party like there’s no tomorrow, we celebrate like it’s the last night of our lives, but there is a tomorrow. It doesn’t look extravagant and high rolling. In fact, it’s humble. Not something us guys want to think about, but it makes me think about what kind of man I want to be.
Tonight there was an event I wanted to go to, but my wife Kristen didn’t. I started experiencing FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out), but then I thought back to the elderly man and his wife. I don’t think he experiences any kind of FOMO. Being with his wife is right where he’s supposed to be.
What kind of man do you want to be? Think about it. How do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years? And yes, in 50 years? I think we’d all have a lot more good guy swag if we thought in those numbers.