Virtue Signaling Men are another variation of the Nice Guy. These are the guys who appear to be the finest of gentlemen on the outside. They’re people pleasers to the max and their opinions are pretty much whatever is trending on social media.
To give Virtue Signaling Men a proper definition:
The action or practice of publicly expressing opinions or sentiments intended to demonstrate one’s good character or the moral correctness of one’s position on a particular issue.”
Like all nice guys, though, Virtue Signaling Men have an angry monster awaiting on the inside that will eventually rear its ugly head. Every once in awhile, you can see through this disguise when you hear one complain, “Girls only go for jerks.” Correction: they’re probably just looking for a man with bit of spine.
The Nice Guy is insidious like a hydra. You cut off one head and another rises up. And today, this monster head comes in the form of Virtue Signaling Men. You might hear them talk about how masculinity is toxic or how we’re all like Harvey Weinstein. And, of course, he believes every male is entitled. Take ownership and responsibility, but don’t blame yourself for something you haven’t done. That’s shame.
Will True Confidence Take a Stand?
No doubt, I’ve been blessed. My online content has received a lot of favor. At the same time, it can also be a bit divisive. But one umbrella I refuse to live under again is SHAME. I can be proud of being a good man and a fool. I’m proud of my family heritage. I’m proud of the wonderful patriarchs (because not all patriarchy is bad) who formed my family line into the evolution of who I am; strong men who left the comforts of their country to seek a new life in America. I come from men who built farms, towns, and cities.
While the Virtue Signaling Men believe all men are monsters, the truth is, men have dwelt in shame for far too long. Suicide, academic issues, sexual abuse and the overwhelming percentage of men in prison are certainly not due to having true confidence.
Men with strong inner confidence are not the type to be threatened by feminism. My confidence has only spurred my wife to become a stronger female leader. I would be honored if her success far exceeded mine. This mindset is a quality of good leadership.
Finally, men with true confidence are also humble and willing to listen, learn, and adapt.
When Good Men Gather Together…
..great things can happen. When LA Men’s Group got started over five years ago, GoodGuySwag.com became a product of many of our discussions. One ancient truth remains clear:
Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” Proverbs 13:20
Problems arise when men surround themselves with Nice Guy and Harvey Weinstein types or no men at all. Walk with wise men. When a guy can be fully authentic, own his entire story, and be accepted by good men around him, a full charge revolution can happen within. One thing I’ve noticed is when good men come together, no man is left behind. Each man is compelled to become a better man and is sharpened by the men around him.
I might rattle off articles on differences between boys and men, but…
We All Know Real Men Take a Stand
And it’s not based on what’s going to make them most popular. It’s not based on whatever equation is going to get within arm’s reach of a beautiful woman. You’ll see real men take a stand, even when it’s against popular opinion, because they have conviction and character.
We don’t memorialize Abraham Lincoln because he agreed with popular opinion. He famously said, “Character is like a tree and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing.”
I’d rather climb and stand within the branches of the men who walked before me than worry about the shadows they’ve cast. Guess what? In light, we all make shadows. No one’s perfect. No one.
Virtue Signaling Men Don’t Speak for all Men
I most likely won’t reach the pinnacle of manhood, but I can enjoy the climb with the friends around me. This is far different from Virtue Signaling Men who believe they sit on the peak of moral authority. They don’t speak for all men. Their tweets and memes might appear humble, but behind the facade are ulterior motives.