Men go through two dominant stages in the course of life: boyhood and manhood. But what about that awkward time period between the two stages? The middle stage between boyhood and manhood? Ah, yes. The teenage years.
What’s the worst part about being a teenager? The stereotypes: loud, obnoxious, rebellious, disrespectful, out of control and always up to no good. You might as well write that on a name tag and stick it on our shirts because if adults believe it, we think it must be true.
Teen boys are thought of as sports-loving, lustful punks. That’s not something I’m putting on my name tag, and you shouldn’t put that on yours either. But if you’re not doing anything to get the stereotypes off of your shoulders, then people will see them on your name tag. How do you rewrite your name tag? You break the stereotypes. But before you break them, you have to stop being a “teenager.” You’re not a teen, you’re a young man.
My mother told me from a young age that I was going to be a young man, not a teenager. I learned as a child to hold doors open and be respectful to my parents. Here are 7 key characteristics of a solid young man:
- He is Respectful towards his parents, elders, members of authority, and woman.
- He is Disciplined, and learns from his mistakes, using the failures as opportunities to constantly better himself.
- He is Confident in who God created him to be, but isn’t cocky. In his confidence, he sticks out from the crowd trying to change it for the better.
- He is a Gentleman. He is polite, considerate of others and their needs, and gentle in his actions, attitude and conversation. But he isn’t a doormat, instead he’s a servant who washes feet.
- He is Faithful in his walk with his God, and realizes that his reward comes from Him, and not from man.
- He is Humble. He takes a hit in the ego and lowers himself so others have a better view than he did. Decreasing so He can increase.
- He is Patient. Whether he’s pursuing his dream girl or is waiting on some other important event in life, the Lord will provide when he waits and trusts the situation in the Lord’s hands.
I’m eagerly pursuing the life style of a godly, young man. I’ll be the first to admit I’m not perfect, but I’m trying my best. Do all young men a favor and break the stereotypes.