After over 3 million views on The Wife List, goodguyswag.com has received emails from high school and college guys wondering about a girlfriend list.
What kind of qualities are important in a girlfriend? If you’re spending lots of time becoming the best guy you can be, why not have some standards for the girl you will date? Here is a list of 10 attributes to look for:
1. She’s patient
Do you feel like she’s dating you because of the guy you could become? You deserve a girl who likes you for who you are right at this moment; you can’t date “potential.” If she’s pressuring you to do anything or be someone you’re not comfortable with, just remember true love is patient, and is willing to wait. The best kind of relationship isn’t a performance.
2. She’s sweet
Your classmates, your fraternity brothers, your teammates should love her. Why? Because she’s nice to everyone, including you. How does she treat her parents? How does she treat those who aren’t in the popular crowd and can do nothing for her? Pay close attention. That’s how you could be treated one day.
3. She has gratitude
Does she thank you for the little things you do for her, or does she complain about what you don’t do? When you get an “A” on a test, does she cheer for you, or is she bitter she got a lower score? Love does not envy or hold resentment. You want a girl who celebrates others, including yourself.
4. She’s humble
Your girl should have inner confidence. She won’t need to brag or boast. If you want to be loved right, don’t pick someone who is self-centered. Want to know if she passes this test? Just take a look at her social media. Is it all about her? What percentage of her pictures are selfies?
5. She speaks well of everyone
If she backstabs her close friends, why wouldn’t she do the same to you? You want a girl who is forgiving, looks for the best in everyone, and calls out the best in everyone. If you want a good girl to take home to momma, find one who honors others.
6. She’s not a honeybadger
Is she a people user, and willing to step on others to get what she wants? Does she help others or is she only concerned about herself? Is she involved in school? Is she a team player? Does she have many girlfriends? A girl who is self-seeking will throw you under the bus to get what she wants, so just don’t go there. It’ll save you from heartache in the future.
7. She’s chill
She doesn’t easily get mad, or jump to conclusions. In fact, she’ll give you the benefit of the doubt unless you’ve done something to deserve it. Someone who is easily angered is more intent on destroying than building, and a good relationship always builds. Sure, a short-tempered person can apologize, but words are powerful. Love buffers anger.
8. She lets go of the past
She doesn’t hold a historical ledger against you. If she maintains a mental log of every wrong you’ve committed, you’ll be walking on egg shells throughout your relationship. On the other hand, if you continually make the same mistakes over and over, you want a girl who is going to call you out.
9. She’s trusting
Is she going through your texts and Facebook? If you’ve cheated on her, that’s a good reason. However, if you’ve always been faithful, there’s no reason she should ever check your email in suspicion. Love is trusting.
10. She goes the distance
Settle down guys, not talking about sex here; this is about character. When circumstances get tough, does she disappear or run away? You want a girl who’s going to stick by you through the thick and thin. She will persevere with you through the good times and the bad, and is going to challenge you to be the best version of yourself.
Love is more than the Merriam-Webster definition: “a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person.” Love is a verb, right? There has to be action. It’s patient, it’s kind, and it’s more geared to the other person than the “feeling” within yourself. In fact, she should be using these same standards to look at the love you bring to the table as well.