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The 10 Unbeatable Ways A Good Guy Leads

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Everyone admires a leader. Men were created to lead, and I’m not talking about leading in an authoritative, douchey way. I’m not talking about the alpha-male way either. Whether you consider yourself a leader or not, every guy has a leader within. It just takes a little confidence, consistent development of character and sharp situational awareness to bring it out.

Men are expected to initiate and ask a girl out, be a firm constant rock, and to lead by example. Here are 1o unbeatable ways in which a good guy leads:

1. We lead through our character.

A man’s character is constant no matter what the situation. Integrity, courage to stand up for what is right, and resiliency are just a few ways to define character. What does your gut tell you? You generally know what’s right or wrong. Our word is our bond. A real man does not compromise his character to the pressures of society or what other people think. Getting dogged or called out? No sweat. We let our character do most of the talking.

2. We step aside when there is a better leader capable in handling the situation.
Don’t let pride get in the way of the bigger picture. Know when to step aside. Be honest and humble. I can guarantee your wife/girlfriend or team will respect you a lot more if you step aside and let someone that is more tailored to the situation lead.

3. We care for whomever we lead.
Whether this be your wife, girlfriend, or team, we put their welfare ahead of our own. Not the other way around. We give them the better things. For instance, in circumstances where there aren’t enough beds for the group, they sleep on the bed, we sleep on the floor. We would die for them. There is no greater love than a man giving his life for a friend or loved one.

4. We seek self-improvement.
Whatever you lead, whether it be a relationship, company, or team, staying stagnant is detrimental to yourself and to whomever you’re leading. Who’s perfect? Check your weaknesses. Improve on it. If Michael Jordan didn’t work on his game every offseason and just stuck with his natural ability, the Bulls would not have won six championships, let alone one.

5. We’re competent.
I’m not saying we have to be experts in everything we do, but everyone agrees it feels a lot better following a leader that knows what they’re doing. Not to mention, we will carry strong confidence when we are competent.

6. We take responsibility for our actions.
We’re not afraid to admit when we’re wrong, and we own up to our mistakes. If we choose to not own up or ‘fess up to our mistakes, it speaks volumes. It says that we’re not confident in ourselves; it says we don’t want to take responsibility for what we did wrong. We’re leaders for better or for worse. We need to be men, and be men enough to take the hit when ‘ish goes bad.

7. We’re confident.
We’re not confident because we’re well dressed or good-looking, or because of the high social status that we have. We are confident because we’re comfortable with ourselves. We know our identity and we accept it. Confidence like this is contagious, and it gives off a presence that people (regardless if you’re a male or female) can innately sense.

8. We seek council from others and value wisdom.
Regardless of how good we are at something, we’re still human. We still make mistakes. Even the smartest and wisest of men can make unwise decisions. Our judgment can get clouded. Imagine being the best firefighter in the world being lost in the largest forest fire ever recorded in the history of man. The firefighter is still talented and one of the best, but he’s going to need help from a helicopter who is flying overhead who has a better eye on the situation to get out of the forest fire. That’s what getting counsel is like: you’re talking to someone with a better view of the situation you’re dealing with.

9. We create a positive environment.
I once had a boss who  had the worst attitude while he was at work. He would sneer when someone would ask a question, and he would openly criticize mistakes my coworkers made on their status reports and projects in front of everyone. So when it came to a time where he asked us to stay after work past the required hours to get a project done, no one wanted to stay. Why? Because we didn’t have to, nor did we want to. He ended up getting fired a month later. That guy fostered a negative environment. Good leaders do the opposite of that. They create a positive environment, an environment where learning and growth can easily take place. When you create a positive environment, people want to be there.

10. We encourage and mold other leaders.
If you’re honestly thinking that you’re gonna be the big badass leader forever, think again. You’re going to get old, and well, we’re all mortal. A good leader molds and trains younger leaders to take his place. We give the people our vision, philosophy and expect them to live out and improve on it.

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5 Responses to The 10 Unbeatable Ways A Good Guy Leads

  1. Beast February 28, 2014 at 7:04 am #

    word. good write wesley

  2. 1 + The One February 28, 2014 at 9:00 am #

    Great list!

  3. Jarid February 28, 2014 at 6:20 pm #

    Great list, I am going to copy it down and show it to the guys in the house.

  4. Jorge M February 28, 2014 at 8:04 pm #

    Liked your post! Thanks for writing it. Behind each and every way to lead, I found a good trait: character, humbleness, responsibility, self-knowledge and so on… Wrapping all together into a leadership hasn’t crossed my mind but it actually makes sense. It would be great if this happened. I guess I define leadership for the number of followers, and I think having these traits helps you more to break the mold than to attract followers. Anyways, what’s your thoughts on how can we develop these great attributes? PEACE!

    • Wes Moldogo March 1, 2014 at 3:36 am #

      Hey Jorge!

      This is my first time ever commenting back, and my picture won’t show on the comment so please believe this is actually me. Haha.

      But thanks.

      It’s typical to see people define leadership (or measure it at least) with the number of followers you have. And in a way that’s somewhat true. But not exactly.

      Leadership is essentially INFLUENCE.

      I remember a 1st Lieutenant in the United States Army saying that “the greatest compliment was when the men of his platoon said they’d follow him to Hell and back.” Seriously, hell and back? Who would do that? This guy had his men motivated enough to. That Captain had not just respect, but major influence among his men. The same goes for leadership anywhere.

      If you’re looking to develop these attributes, it essentially starts from a person’s heart, and your character.

      I put a leader’s character at the top of the list because I wanted to make sure people read that. You have an awesome character, everything on this list plus more will just fall into place.

      A leader that is a GENUINELY A GOOD PERSON AT HEART are what people like to be around. I mean think about. Who wants to be a around a douche all the time? Maybe for a while, but in the long run, they won’t last. You’ll also see the occasional leader pretending to be a good guy only when people are looking at him, but leaders like that don’t last long. Their ugly character always eventually seeps out, so if you’re thinking about bullshitting your followers or whomever you’re leading you’ve got another thing coming.

      But yes, rest assure an admirable character of a man is something that everyone just innately follows.

      The problem, my friend, for most people is developing that GOOD CHARACTER.

      Good luck Jorge!

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