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Are Men Doing Enough to Protect Women?

Are Men Doing Enough to Protect Women?

Are Men Doing Enough to Protect Women?

Who are the three most important women in your life?

For me, it’s my wife, my mom, and my sister.

These three alone make me want to be a better man.

I’m going to make a confession. I read a women’s book. I’m a John Eldredge fan and since my wife loved Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul by John and his wife Stasi so much, I decided to investigate that mystery myself in the spirit of becoming a better man.

While reading it, I found myself asking, “Do I always treat women with respect and honor? Am I doing enough to protect the women around me?”

In the beginning…

How can we treat and protect women better? John and Stasi suggest we can start by going back to the beginning.

Why did God place Woman in our midst?…We clearly haven’t learned its lessons–for if we had, men would treat women much, much differently…”

When Jerry Maguire said, “You complete me,” he spoke words that have echoed since the beginning of time: Man was never created to be alone. Even with everything at his fingertips, he felt incomplete. Today, that equates to every video game, every electronic, every luxury car…but still Adam felt something missing. So, God completed humanity when He created Eve. She was the “crown of creation.”

Eve was the epitome of God’s beauty.

Stasi points out, “Satan fell because of his beauty. Now his heart for revenge is to assault beauty.” So, Eve becomes his first target in the Garden when he slyly questions her.

Satan continues to target beauty today, and far more insidiously. It comes in the form of rape, genital mutilation, assault, and domestic abuse. This evil against women continues as long as men forget the reason Eve was created.

Evil thrives when good men look away, when good men feign ignorance, and when good men are passive.

A few months ago, signs and billboards filled Los Angeles streets with a great quote from Edmund Burke:

All that is necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.”

In 10 Ways to Win a Girl’s Heart, I describe how Kristen wanted to be a princess as a young girl.

The prince rescues and protects the princess.

In Sleeping Beauty, the prince slays the gigantic reptile, the dragon. Since our marriage, most of my protecting comes through prayer and emotional protection. But, I train my body for the day I will physically stand for her. It makes me wonder,

What would our world be like if Adam stepped in while the reptile questioned Eve instead of being passive? What if he would have cut that reptile’s head off just like the Prince in Sleeping Beauty?

Would evil be allowed to prey on women today?

Women are vulnerable to evil, and that evil is often men. No matter how much training a woman does, men genetically have an advantage. We weigh more and can build more muscle. When it comes down to it, everything being equal, a guy will win a physical match. Women learn self defense because they fear this vulnerability, but it can never be the solution.

What’s the solution?

Detroit Lions linebacker Deandre Levi wonders why we aren’t “educating young men about the definition of consent and what constitutes rape? We’re essentially dealing with the problem by telling women to be more careful.” The answer to the problem shouldn’t lie on women’s shoulders.

Before we go blaming this hidden evil elsewhere, we have to look inward. We have to look in the mirror. Could the problem be me? Could the problem reside in us? When we talk about protection as a manhood standard, we might need to consider protecting women from our own selves.

The problem isn’t far away. 

Consider these statistics from the Department of Justice:

  • In 2010, 25% of the female victims of rape/sexual assault were victimized by strangers.
  • 1 in 4 girls are sexually abused before the age of 18.
  • In 2006 alone, 300,000 college women (5.2%) were raped (12% of rapes were reported to law enforcement).
  • Only about 10% of perpetrators of child sexual abuse are strangers to the child.

It’s unbelievable to think that 75% of attacks on women come from men they know!

“We need men to understand that there are likely women close to them who have experienced an assault and never told a soul,” writes NFL player Deandre Levy.

women have experienced assault

We have to consider it’s highly possible one or more of the three most important women in our lives has endured an assault. The odds increase when we consider our friends and our coworkers.

We’ve got to look through a new lens. We need to treat all women with the same love and respect as we would treat the one’s we love.

We should remember humanity will never be complete without women.

With this mentality, we will protect.

Good guys take a stand. Good guys take action. Good guys protect.

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3 Responses to Are Men Doing Enough to Protect Women?

  1. Juulesy October 25, 2016 at 9:49 pm #

    Young men should be trained in carrying out a citizen’s arrest if called upon. In my world I almost never encounter situations to that extreme and usually leading a woman away from the scene resolves matters. The only time I’ve ever been in an extreme situation led me to getting into a fight and I ended up in hospital because of my complete inexperience in dealing with these situations. I so wish I had known back then how to arrest them as a citizen and also wish I had a mentor who I could talk to on my own accord. It’s just as important for us to be role models to boys by treating women respectfully whilst being playful but not being supplicating with an hidden agenda. Unfortunately I see far too much supplicating behaviour from guys generally and they are the ones who seem to get it on with women more.

  2. Yehuda October 25, 2016 at 10:00 pm #

    Everyone must take personal responsibility for her or his actions. One of many reasons women are not being protected by men, is because women are stating women do not need men, for anything! Now, women do not need men to procreate. A women needs a man’s sperm to procreate, which why there are sperm banks.

    in Synagogues and churches, female/male rabbis and female/male pastors cater to women, by encouraging women to independent of men! Jewish and Christian female are unable to find suitable male mates, in synagogues and churches, because men do not feel welcomed in synagogues and churches; therefore, men are abandoning their Judeo-Christian foundation.

    Men can get sued and/or arrested for protecting women! This also includes protecting a female family member, from an abusive male mate.

    Shalom!

  3. greg July 4, 2017 at 3:52 pm #

    We must resist long and loud, and for the sake of our culture ‘we’ – the logical, free thinking, open-minded and caring people simply have to win this fight. Feminist agenda’s frequent policy at all levels in Australia and most other western countries must be stopped and dismantled.

    There are many institutions in which feminists’ have turned the screws by any method available. They will jump in bed with any organisation they can to destroy straight white males. One recent and ongoing example is the meeting and co-operation between feminists’ and Islam. It would be hilarious if it wasn’t so stupid.

    Right now in Australia if a woman wants to divorce her husband and keep the kids and his pay-packet by uttering three words; “I felt threatened”, three words to the police and husband is escorted from the house, contact with his children is severed. The Family Court is one area in which feminists’ have had one huge ‘win’ after another. The Dept. of Human Serv. & Child Support Agency is just as rotten, and this has been building for six decades. There is no ‘burden of proof’ for the plaintiff (mothers), and the defendant (fathers) in the vast majority of cases cannot afford a lawyer (av. $3000 per adjournment) and so must represent themselves. The plaintiff is backed by the state and will adjourn on average three times at three months wait between.

    Here’s the kicker; Women no longer have to face the accused or answer questions from him for fear of being ‘re-traumatised”. The father who is desperate to see his children can no longer test the allegations in court. This law was enacted in 2012. Since then, according to family court judges, accusations of abuse have skyrocketed and it’s a now-familiar approach for a bitter custody dispute. It must be said that the vast majority of abuse allegations are found to be non-existent after many months, sometimes years. All this time the father must continue child support whilst being denied access to his children.

    Is it really any wonder why fathers are taking their lives at a rate much, much higher than the road toll, and yet it is never spoken of – and if you do most people will tell you not to waste you’re time or theirs with such things.

    So to all those feminists’, I hope you’re proud of yourselves.

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