How To Become A Better Man


She lies and says she’s in love with him, can’t find a better man…” Pearl Jam

The world is looking for a better man. The better man is a leader who takes others with him and makes his community a better place. He breaks the mold. He’s a symbol of hope and a pillar of strength.

Fraternities were created with the notion to make better men. Here are some examples:

  • Delta Sigma Phi: We challenge ourselves and our brothers to make an impact in our community and the world. To rise to the moment and take action. To be the better man.
  • “To Make Better Men…” —the purpose of Alpha Gamma Rho.
  • Delta Upsilon is the premier men’s fraternity committed to Building Better Men for a global society
  • Kappa Sigma’s main objective is based on building a better man…
  • A Sigma Pi man recognizes early in his college career that he is in a continual evolution to make himself a better man socially and professionally.
  • Becoming a member of Theta Chi is a lifelong commitment. It is a brotherhood where you are constantly challenged to become a better man.

We can say we want to become better men, and we can spell out what a better man does, but how do we become a better man? Is the better man an unreachable ideal?

Men become better men through character development, accountability, and a support system.

Character development

There is no better lesson in character development than to learn from someone who has character. Who were the world changers who made a difference? What traits did Abraham Lincoln, Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela possess that set them apart from every other leader?

What is it about these traits that made such a difference? How does this standard of living compare to the choices we make on a day-to-day basis? How can we incorporate and live out these traits?

Finally, the best way to develop a new skill or trait is to practice it.


How do men stay accountable in the digital age? How do we check in and make sure we are progressing to be our best? What apps are available to assist us in these endeavors? Everyone has ups and downs. We might take ten steps forward and two steps back, but the key is progression, not perfection.

Do you have a form of accountability? Are your friends only drinking buddies or are they willing to tell you the hard truths?

One of the books I recommend to every guy is No More Mr Nice Guy. The beginning of the book talks about the need for a support system. We all need a team. We need advocates who will push us to the next level.

The problem is, there aren’t many support systems available to guys. Some men don’t need AA, and some guys don’t feel comfortable going to a church. After receiving multiple emails from guys asking how they can get plugged into a community, I decided the time is ripe to create an online community.

Next month, GoodGuySwag is going to begin building an online community so together, we can start becoming better men. Email [email protected] for more information.

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4 Responses to How To Become A Better Man

  1. Jorge M June 4, 2014 at 2:43 am #

    I’m interested. And I have a question: “live on an online forum on Tuesday evenings for an hour” is a time already set or is it flexible? I think on weekends could be easier, at least for me.

    • Jorge M June 4, 2014 at 2:44 am #

      Ooops! I forgot to say: PEACE!! heheh

    • Kris Wolfe June 7, 2014 at 1:21 am #

      Sorry for the delayed response Jorge. Is there a time that would work better for you on a Tuesday evening? Weekends are generally difficult to get a bunch of people together.

  2. Ian Korn June 5, 2014 at 3:02 am #

    Not sure what this is going to turn into, but I’m intrigued, and I’m in!

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