How Much Are You Worth? [Podcast]

image If you go on a retail diamond search, make sure you know the 4 C’s. You judge the stone’s worth by its cut, clarity, color, and carat. If it’s cut well, it has worth; but if it doesn’t have a good cut, the value decreases. If the diamond has blemishes, it has less clarity, and is therefore worth less. If the color is white, it has more worth. If it has more weight and presence, it has more value.

As a society, we judge people with the same attributes:

“Oh you’re fat? You’re really not cut up enough to play on our high school basketball team.”

“Look at her acne. Her skin has no clarity. Don’t ask her to the dance.”

“We need more people of this particular race to make our company look more diverse.”

“That guy has a huge social media following, and has presence. I should really get to know him.”

The scale for judging a diamond’s worth is man-made. In fact, we all buy into an illusion that diamonds are precious and rare. They are not. Look up De Beers. They create an artificial scarcity to make diamonds seem more exclusive, and just like anything else we can’t get, we want more, and value goes up.

Your worth is not determined by man-made standards.

A diamond’s value is determined by an artificial scarcity. You are the epitome of true scarcity. There is no one like, so your value is high. You are an industry within, so you have the ability to set your own worth. Your individuality is more precious than rubies (a stone more rare than a diamond).

When you believe you are the best, you won’t settle for less.

I remember as a child, we met with the manager of an amusement park in Branson, MO. He walked us around and I noticed he picked up a piece of trash and carefully threw it away. I asked him, “Why are you picking up the trash? Isn’t there a janitor to do it?” He told me, “I care about this park so I’m going to take the initiative to do it. No one person can make it look great all the time.” He loved his job and he cared what the park looked like down to picking up pieces of trash himself.

When you care for something, you will inconvenience yourself to make it better.

When you care about yourself, you will want to make yourself better. You will take pride in your body by going to the gym. You will try your best to dress nice. You will seek and discover ways to become more confident. You will do something about the parts of your life you aren’t happy with.

My wife and I just started a podcast called Relationship Radio. Take a listen and let us know what you think of our first podcast.

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5 Responses to How Much Are You Worth? [Podcast]

  1. Jorge M May 14, 2014 at 6:56 pm #

    Hey! Cool message guys. I liked how you talk about getting aware of our self worth by
    positive affirmations, and acknowledge on how great we are, but this also takes you to a mindset in which you establish limits, like when Kris was talking about sweets in the fridge. Most of the time I hear this message with a twist, yeah mags and even therapists tell that you should celebrate your uniqueness and then, kind of get lost in it. They would suggest you to take as many sweets as you like and just enjoy life. Instead of feeling entitled to the next best thing after discovering our diamond value, like the world suggests, I like the fact you propose to discover our value not in ourselves alone but as a function of God, stating our value in the fact we are His creation. Bringing God into the equation makes room for a moral standard to take as compass and establish
    limits. I also liked your final thoughts on authenticity and transparency, those alone can be a great next theme for a talk. PEACE and thanks for this podcasts, it’s a great idea!

    • Kris Wolfe May 15, 2014 at 8:05 pm #

      Absolutely Jorge. There’s a balance and there’s a voice that says stop eating the treats. Do you listen to that voice (which I believe is the Holy Spirit) or do you listen to what you want? Only listening to myself gets me in trouble more often than not.

  2. Tyler D May 15, 2014 at 7:56 pm #

    Kris and Kristen,

    Just wanted to say thank you for the podcast. I really liked how you guys went back and forth and used each other to emphasize points or elaborate on your own thoughts. I enjoyed how this podcast started off with high standards and self worth about ourselves and being proud of the person were are even when we are taking steps to self improvement. Kristen mentioned about how disrespecting yourself is also disrespecting God and that really resonated well with me. Kris, I have been a frequent reader of goodguyswag for about a year and really have valued all the insight you’ve provided. I especially enjoy how much value and worth you place in women (and obviously Kristen). It’s extremely refreshing to see your authenticity and transparency throughout this site, and it’s greatly encouraging for guys like myself. Kristen, I just recently have visited your site and even though I know it is aimed more at women, I really value the fact that you show how much God loves us and that we have a great amount of self worth. You wrote an article/video the end of March about having a dream and that the only person holding us back was ourselves and that God says our portion has been assigned and the boundary lines have fallen in pleasant places. This was very encouraging and I really thank you for your message. I wanted to thank you both again for the podcast and all the work you do on your own sites. You guys are a true blessing with such a great message and I pray only the very best for the both of you!

    • Kris Wolfe May 15, 2014 at 8:03 pm #

      Tyler, this is such an amazing message. Thank you brother. We really appreciate and need the prayers and good thoughts you send our way. Even though our sites are different, you’ll notice similar articles sometimes. We usually discuss and topic and then write them from a man’s perspective for goodguyswag and a woman’s perspective for sheismore.

  3. Christopher Walker May 21, 2014 at 12:29 pm #

    Relationships Radio!

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