If you go on a retail diamond search, make sure you know the 4 C’s. You judge the stone’s worth by its cut, clarity, color, and carat. If it’s cut well, it has worth; but if it doesn’t have a good cut, the value decreases. If the diamond has blemishes, it has less clarity, and is therefore worth less. If the color is white, it has more worth. If it has more weight and presence, it has more value.
As a society, we judge people with the same attributes:
“Oh you’re fat? You’re really not cut up enough to play on our high school basketball team.”
“Look at her acne. Her skin has no clarity. Don’t ask her to the dance.”
“We need more people of this particular race to make our company look more diverse.”
“That guy has a huge social media following, and has presence. I should really get to know him.”
The scale for judging a diamond’s worth is man-made. In fact, we all buy into an illusion that diamonds are precious and rare. They are not. Look up De Beers. They create an artificial scarcity to make diamonds seem more exclusive, and just like anything else we can’t get, we want more, and value goes up.
Your worth is not determined by man-made standards.
A diamond’s value is determined by an artificial scarcity. You are the epitome of true scarcity. There is no one like, so your value is high. You are an industry within, so you have the ability to set your own worth. Your individuality is more precious than rubies (a stone more rare than a diamond).
When you believe you are the best, you won’t settle for less.
I remember as a child, we met with the manager of an amusement park in Branson, MO. He walked us around and I noticed he picked up a piece of trash and carefully threw it away. I asked him, “Why are you picking up the trash? Isn’t there a janitor to do it?” He told me, “I care about this park so I’m going to take the initiative to do it. No one person can make it look great all the time.” He loved his job and he cared what the park looked like down to picking up pieces of trash himself.
When you care for something, you will inconvenience yourself to make it better.
When you care about yourself, you will want to make yourself better. You will take pride in your body by going to the gym. You will try your best to dress nice. You will seek and discover ways to become more confident. You will do something about the parts of your life you aren’t happy with.
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