10 Qualities of a Healthy Princess Mentality

qualities of a desirable princess

Noble: A princess is a noble young lady who carries herself with poise and dignity. She listens attentively. And when she speaks, she carefully chooses her words. She exercises control over her emotions and makes choices based on what’s right rather than how she feels.

A woman who acts like a princess is attractive, isn’t she?

  • A woman who’s secure, confident, and powerful.
  • A woman that challenges us to become a better man.

I grew up watching Disney movies and Lord of the Rings as a kid, so the idea of being a hero and winning the heart of a princess has always been on my mind.

But, the “princess mentality” is also something that we’re warned of, often considered a major red flag in dating. Two different kinds of princess mindsets exist: one being gracious, the other being entitled. What are the characteristics of a woman with a healthy princess mentality?

10 Qualities of Healthy Princess Mentality: The Kind You Date and Marry

1. She is humble.

A woman with a healthy princess mentality doesn’t overtly call attention to herself. Her poise and confidence may draw attention, but she doesn’t go out of her way to get people to notice her.

2. She knows her self worth.

She sets boundaries and doesn’t let others walk all over her. She puts her personal requirements before the demands of others.

3. She is selfless.

After she’s taken care of her personal needs, she helps those around her. She cares about her people.

4. She demands respect and honor.

Not in an obnoxious way, but in a firm and unwavering way. She expects respect and honor she is due as a human being. She isn’t demanding in superficial aspects of her life.

5. She’s wise.

She has an opinion and can voice it on a subject with both strength and tact, not with judgment and force.

6. She’s a leader.

She might not be queen, but she can assume the role of leadership at any given moment. She carries herself with authority.

7. She stands up for her faith.

If you pick up a pound coin in England, you’ll see a picture of Queen Elizabeth II with the surrounding words, ELIZABETH II D.G.REG.F.D. “It stands for: ‘Elizabeth II Dei Gratia Regina Fidei Defensor.’  These words are in Latin and they mean: ‘Elizabeth II, by the Grace of God, Queen, Defender of the Faith.’”

8. She challenges her man.

Not in a confrontational way, but rather in an evocative way. Women have the unique ability to draw out a man’s desire to be a better man. Women who have a healthy princess mentality naturally call their man to a higher standard, often without realizing it.

9. She doesn’t need a man.

Having a man in her life is no doubt a great source of joy, but a woman with the right mindset sees a relationship as a partnership as well. The man is not her “other half,” he is the “other whole” that makes up the healthy relationship.

10. She knows she’s the daughter of the King.

A woman with a healthy princess mentality is a woman who knows her worth. A princess is a daughter of a king. When women embrace the fact that they, too, have that kind of value, the rest falls into place. And this, men, is the kind of princess you want to pursue.

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12 Responses to 10 Qualities of a Healthy Princess Mentality

  1. Juulesy August 11, 2016 at 7:17 pm #

    thanks for nailing down this crucial topic. very well written. Could you elaborate on no 7 please? I for one am not particularly keen on religious nutters! although i’m sure that’s not what you’re really talking about here. lol

    I’d also like to add my personal preferences: she has a sense of equality and justice. And she has a progressive outlook to life, in that she also wants to keep bettering herself as a woman

    • Andrew Loeschner August 11, 2016 at 10:42 pm #

      I would argue that number 7 is a very crucial point for Christian women, but from a secular standpoint it could be applied as “She stands up for her morals.” And I think a sense of equality and justice would probably be very close to the heart of a moral woman. Or a moral person in general. And yes, a woman bettering herself every day is a fantastic goal, and a point we push a lot here regarding guys!

      • Mary December 3, 2020 at 1:33 am #

        Working on being better every day is a very challenging goal. But it`s worth it. Thanks for this list.

  2. Mac Ben August 14, 2016 at 6:35 am #

    Andrew, this is really a great article! These are the very qualities we’re to look for in women if we want to have a happy and peaceful marriage.

  3. lc April 10, 2017 at 6:23 am #

    this article is crappy.
    humble docile well-behaved women, graceful, selfless fairy girls.
    They dont exist. It would be nice if they did.
    We are mostly moody, bleeding, miscarrying humans underneath nice appearances, and we also take shits like every day.
    Women demystified.

    And the bit about the king. Lol.
    Like she should worship a larger male figure.
    We arent all born with the same father. Some of us get monsters.
    We cant exactly worship child molesters. But I guess this IS a christian article, and child molestation is kind of built into that system. What am I trying to say… !

    Basically, as a real life 25 yr old, i can tell you that a lot of womens issues with neurotic (or less ideal behaviour) revolve around sexual trauma, and getting pregnant, and how instense and wierd your body is, and that your career and life is over if you get pregnant or raped. Biologically we live different existances than young men, who do not have the ability to generate children, and all that bloody mess.

    Its a bit harder for some young women to grow into these polite prim victorian era roles. I didnt say its impossible, but there is a disparity that exists which is completely blind sided by this article.

    As a young woman, its easy to internalize these traits,
    but becoming them is a huge challenge,
    and we shouldnt hate on womens failure to embody this laundry list of traits,
    written by a .. oh young christian guy. Lol

    Anyways, the last bit in the article I found to be problematic, since its basically a re-introduction to “daddy issues”, and how perfect girls dont have them. lol
    We don`t all have the same parents. Some parents are highly abusive.

    Men, women and everyone else have daddy issues.
    Unless you are into sigmund freuds views on daddy daughter sexual dynamics.

    Anyways how is this filth being published ?

    • Andrew Loeschner April 10, 2017 at 1:40 pm #

      I’ll take your complaints seriously and try to respond to each one because I think you fundamentally misunderstood the purpose of this article. So, to start off, I know a lot of girls who still love the concept of being a princess, but society has shut them down and guys as well have been told that a “princess” kinda girl is a demanding narcissist. My point was to show that there are girls out there who embody the whole “princess” thing in a healthy way without being said demanding narcissists and I wrote this as a kind of guide to help guys spot those qualities.

      Moving on to the “humble docile well-behaved women, graceful, selfless fairy girls.” Humility is a trait all of us should strive for. The point isn’t for women to shut themselves down and pretend they have no value, it’s a call to quiet acceptance of self, knowing you don’t have to shout out your qualities for them to be noticed. And, if you read anything else on this site, guys get the same message repeatedly and I can point you to an entire article on the topic geared towards men. If you mean docile as in a woman who never fights back and just accepts being walked upon then you clearly missed points 2, 4, 6, 8, and 9. And selflessness is a quality, once again, that we call everyone to because we here at the site think it to be important. As for the whole “they don’t exist” statement, I don’t think embodying the qualities listed above at all are an implication that women aren’t ever moody or never take a shit.

      The part about the king is written from a Christian standpoint in reference to God. It’s not about worshiping larger male figures and definitely not about condoning submission to abuse.

      How child molestation came into the picture I have no idea. It’s basically the reality that you have no solid argument so you introduce a totally irrelevant topic, assign each of us to different sides, and then attempt to vilify me because you’ve decided that somehow I’m subliminally supporting child molestation. It’s a cheap argument tactic

      If you’ve decided to skim over this comment like you almost undoubtedly did my article then the TOO LONG DIDN’T READ VERSION IS: You fundamentally misunderstood everything I was trying to say and probably wouldn’t be in disagreement with anything I had to say if we sat down over coffee and had a chat about it.

      • Sunny February 17, 2019 at 11:16 am #

        This is a article for a girl like me , thank you Andrew loeschner.

  4. Sunny March 8, 2019 at 5:21 am #

    Society criticises woman and girls who are with these qualities and I am also the one who got effected with the comments of other people

  5. Sunny March 8, 2019 at 5:22 am #

    But your article helped me a lot thank you once again

  6. Jessica December 1, 2019 at 10:11 pm #

    I think this article is great and every woman needs to see themselves from this perspective. That’s exactly what’s wrong with society today, females have been stripped of their identity. They don’t know who they are and Who they belong to, so they enter into relationships with men that devalue and degrade them. This is exactly the type of ministry the Lord is leading me into; teaching females who they are in Christ. If you are a son/daughter of the King, you are infact, Royalty! God bless you for sharing what the Lord laid on your heart!

  7. Ernest Delmoe March 3, 2022 at 8:57 pm #

    I agreed with nearly everything you said, but I might offer one suggestion: it might be better if you were to say, “she commands respect and honor“ rather than “she demands respect and honor.“


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