Being homeschooled has given me a different perspective on teenage dating and romantic relationships.
One reason being, I can’t have a girlfriend or date anyone until I’m at least seventeen. But, I can have plenty of girl friends. This has helped me learn to appreciate the importance of a romantic relationship, and to date with the purpose of marriage.
When it comes down to it, relationships only have two possible outcomes: heartbreak or commitment (leading to marriage)–the latter should be the ideal.
But, the younger you are, the harder maintaining any romantic relationship will be. And chances are, you probably aren’t ready for one, either.
You’re a male, maybe even a godly one, and you’ve got instincts to protect and provide. Whether it be for family or a girl you like, those instincts are there.
Say, you are in a romantic relationship. Sure, she probably feels safe around and with you, but can you actually provide for her? If you can’t provide for her –mentally, physically and emotionally– then I wonder what’s the purpose of pursuing a romantic relationship?
Unless the relationship lasts through school, college and results in marriage…what’s the point?
In high school, it may seem like all the guys have their girlfriends, but how many of those relationships will actually last? Not many. And there may be the peer pressure to get a girlfriend, but that, my friend, is definitely not a good reason to be dating anyone. It can only get more complicated as the days go on, and the longer it lasts, the harder heartbreak will be for both of you. And you’re young with raging hormones–don’t fall into temptation.
Another thing I’ve learned about is the importance of a friendship with the opposite gender.
Girls are great, and it’s hard not to love them no matter what age you are, but actually loving them may not be the wisest thing to do in your youth.
The benefit of being in the friend zone.
Make friendship with girls, because, ideally, don’t you want to end up marrying your best friend? It’s best to become friends with the girl you like. Try your best at pushing all romantic feelings aside and truthfully pursue a platonic relationship with her.
Emotion isn’t easily hidden, and she’ll probably pick up on your feelings sooner or later, but don’t let that scare you away. You’re after friendship, right? Right. And if that really is your goal, you’ve got nothing to worry about. Besides, if she doesn’t do as your best friend, how would she do as your future wife?
Become her friend and don’t care about a romantic relationship with her until you’re older and the possibility of being able to provide could actually become a reality.
I know, she’s amazing and that’s a difficult task, but you’ll be glad you waited, and she’ll be glad, too. Friendship gives the two of you the perfect opportunity to really get to know each other, and gives God all the time and space He needs to do His will in your lives. And perhaps most importantly, you need to pursue your own personal relationship with God, and He will reveal to you the right person at the right time.
He could’ve already shown her to you, but needs your attention before He awakens her heart towards you.
Learn to wait patiently, because you may not be meant to be together now, but perhaps in the future. And if you’re really meant to be together, don’t worry, God will make it happen if it’s apart of His perfect will.
Think twice before dating in your youth; friendship may be what’s right for you.