Brain and Brawn…these are the fundamental characteristics most men want to achieve. An area we often struggle with and gloss over as men is emotional health. This article will discuss why men need Emotional Intelligence for better relationships and success at work.
Over the past decade, emotional health has been identified with better work and relationship outcomes. If you truly want to succeed in many areas, emotional health can no longer be ignored.
What’s your capacity for perceiving your emotions and others? If you’ve got a good
grasp, you may have high emotional intelligence (EI) or emotional quotient (EQ). If this is an area you struggle in, the good news is, unlike IQ (Intelligence Quotient), EQ can be improved upon.
“Emotional Intelligence” became a popular term after psychologist Daniel Goleman published Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. While EQ has its critics, no one can argue with the important part mood plays in relationships and leadership. No one wants to be in a romantic relationship with someone who has anger issues. Working with a teammate who has temper problems is difficult. And, a manager who can’t stay calm in tough situations is the worst!
Daniel Goleman’s claims Emotional Intelligence is comprised of 5 factors:
5. Social skills.
How well do you understand your mood and how it affects others? “Hallmarks* of self-awareness include self-confidence, realistic self-assessment, and a self-deprecating sense of humor.” In other words, own your personality, consider how you act will affect others, and don’t take yourself too seriously.
Are you prone to knee-jerk reactions or do you think before your act or say something? Self-regulation is “the ability to control or redirect disruptive impulses and moods, and the propensity to suspend judgement and to think before acting.” In other words, don’t let your emotions get the best of you. Let logical thinking be your buffer.
What drives you beyond money and status?
If you have strong internal motivation, it will be exemplified with a positive attitude even through difficult circumstances and a dedication to achieve and succeed.
Can you walk in someone else’s shoes? Empathy is about understanding the viewpoint and emotions of another person.
A leader with good empathy skills can build bridges with others, understand viewpoints from other cultures, and are service-oriented.
How well can you meet and build relationships with others? Are you adept at finding common ground? Can you motivate others to get involved? How well do you communicate?
Recognizing when your feelings have been hurt and noticing when you’ve hurt someone else’s feelings can bring you greater success in relationships. Taking a moment to cool off when you’re upset or asking yourself why you’re upset and thinking through it will build your Emotional Intelligence.