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Crossfit with a Conservative Christian and a Porn Star

Editor’s Note:  Will Youngblood has worked as a celebrity assistant in Los Angeles, CA for 12 years.  He graduated from Biola University with a degree in Communications and a minor in Biblical Studies.

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I’m boring. I know I’m boring. With the exception of one story about me getting drunk in college and subsequently getting stuck on the roof of a house, you probably won’t hear any tales of public nudity or wild antics about me. I’m practical and hard working and determined and I actually like reading the Bible. That’s me. Like I said, boring.

I made a list at the beginning of the year of things I wanted to change about myself to be a better person. The first thing on the list was a sexy, new body.  I’m shallow that way.  So I chose CrossFit as my method of torture. Mainly, because I’m a masochist and I like being part of a community.

Meeting a Porn Star through CrossFit

On the first day, I walked in and challenged them with, “If CrossFit doesn’t work for me, I’m just gonna let myself go and get super fat.” Then…it happened. I met a girl. A tall, blonde, Finnish girl. Her name was Johanna. The first thing I noticed about her was her chest. I’m a good Southern boy that way (Hi mom!). Then, we started talking and I couldn’t stop laughing. She was my female Tyler Durden. Fit, funny, outgoing and not boring at all.

We started the group workout and it was stupid hard.  I almost puked (real men puke at the gym). Everyone finished way before me, so now I’m the only one still trying to finish the workout while everyone just sits there watching me. Then Johanna came over and said, “How many sit-ups do you have left?” I attempted to reply through heavy breathing, “50”. She smiled and said, “I’ll do them with you.” And she did. Thank you Jesus for sending this wonderful angel to save me from CrossFit hell! Johanna is the only reason I got through that workout. And that was the beginning of a really amazing friendship. It’s been a few months now and we schedule ourselves to be at the gym everyday at the same time so we can workout together.

Oh, did I mention she’s a porn star? I guess that’s kind of important. Yeah, she’s a porn star. And a famous one at that. But I didn’t recognize her from anything I’d seen…in the past (Hi mom!). And yes, a guy and a porn star can just be friends. While I have thoughts on this whole porn thing, I’m not going to let that keep me from getting to know someone. And on a personal note, I’m really just trying to keep my own life from spinning out of control. Aren’t we all? And if God has grace for me, He has grace for her too.

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So, what do a conservative Christian and a porn star have in common? I was really surprised, but quite a bit.  A guy at the gym found out she works in porn and he was shocked. He later found out that I’m a Christian and was equally shocked. He said, “How are the two of you friends?” I said, “We just like each other.” After he left, Johanna said she never really knows who she can tell about working in porn because she doesn’t know how they will react. And I said I feel the same way about telling people I’m a Christian in Los Angeles. We talked about how we both feel misunderstood and sometimes rejected by the mainstream.

There are many things that impress me about Johanna. She’s smart, quick-witted, and driven. She sets goals for herself and she goes after them until she’s accomplished them. She’s even written a book! A few weeks ago, we were talking about her desire to get into public speaking, and last week she had her first public speaking gig. Incredible and inspiring.  But most of all, she cares about other people. She wants them to feel included, and she was even willing to do an extra 50 sit-ups so the new guy at the gym didn’t feel awkward.  Now, I love spending time with Johanna at the gym. We encourage each other through the workouts and we have fun doing it.  By the way, I’ve lost 30 lbs this year! Ask me to take my shirt off. I’ll probably do it…but I don’t want to make anyone stumble. (See, even my Christian humor is boring.)

I’m not here to encourage anyone’s non-Biblical life decisions, but I know I would have missed out on a friendship with a pretty incredible person if I had let that stop me from getting to know her. At the end of the day, I just want everyone to know they are LOVED. Not just by me, but by God.

I’ve stopped referring to her as “my porn star friend”. Now I simply call her Johanna. I would have put her name in the title of this blog post, but you wouldn’t have read this far without the porn reference. (Busted!)

If you’re watching porn, remember that these are real people with real lives. And in real life, they couldn’t care less about what’s below your belt.

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25 Responses to Crossfit with a Conservative Christian and a Porn Star

  1. Bruce Nahin September 30, 2013 at 3:18 pm #

    I too am a believer in Yeshua. I have spent almost forty years in the entertainment industry. I mentor young people throughout the week about their goals and aspirations in the industry. One young woman, with whom i have become close, was at the time I met her, also involved in the porn industry. As we came to know one another she asked me to help her to get into mainstream films and out of her part of the industry.

    She now has been in several mainstream films and out of her side completely. Some in Christendom criticized me, vilified me, wrote about me, sent letters about me, because of my determination to help this young woman

    Jesus left us only two commandments which he said summarized all of them. To love God and to love our neighbor. No exceptions that I know of.

    Will exemplifies these teachings. It is through his light that perhaps one day Johanna will get to know Yeshua

    • Kris Wolfe September 30, 2013 at 6:32 pm #

      Bruce, you have one amazing life story. I could see your story alone being a blog. Want to have a go?

  2. Drew September 30, 2013 at 4:08 pm #

    Awesome article. And I literally LOL’ed at the “I don’t want to make anyone stumble.” Way to be an example of non-judgmental love!

    • Kris Wolfe September 30, 2013 at 6:31 pm #

      Thanks for your comment Drew! Always appreciate you buddy.

  3. ryan September 30, 2013 at 5:38 pm #

    this is probably the best blog yet, dang-it Will, up until now i thought mine was!!

    • Kris Wolfe September 30, 2013 at 6:32 pm #

      It’s pretty dang amazing, but we still have a couple more from you coming in the future!

  4. Regina October 1, 2013 at 1:43 am #

    I love this! Such a refreshing perspective. A dear friend who is a Christian always says… “I’m as liberal as the love of God.”… that if Jesus were alive today he’d be loving people, not judging people. The way she genuinely loves people is inspiring to me. I get the same vibe from this.

    Very well written Will.

    • Kris Wolfe October 1, 2013 at 2:36 am #

      Will is the bomb! Thanks for dropping by Regina. I hope this story inspires so many people out there.

  5. Mom October 2, 2013 at 5:45 pm #

    Will you have the most precious spirit. Yes, I know you are from the
    south —! I am inspired by you. You are what not only Christians should be but how people should be to all people! This world needs more of you! I am so very proud to say that you are my son! I miss you and love you more than you could ever know!!!! Love you, MOM!

  6. Chad Thomas Johnston October 9, 2013 at 5:11 pm #

    Love all the “Hi moms!” Awesome story. Love for all through Jesus! 🙂

  7. Andi McBride October 21, 2013 at 1:04 am #

    I like this. One of my favorite friends in the world is an Arab Muslim I met through work. I’ve learned so much through that friendship, and get quite defensive these days when fellow Christians refer to all Muslims in a negative manner. It’s nice finding out how much we have in common with those we think are so different. 🙂

    • Kris Wolfe October 21, 2013 at 7:49 am #

      Glad you enjoyed the article Andi…thanks for coming by our site!

    • Lefa Albert Chamba December 5, 2013 at 1:20 pm #

      You get to realise that every human being is full of the love of God regrdless of race or religion, we just need to find ways to harness it and it will show forth.

  8. Jessica November 1, 2013 at 9:53 pm #

    Great article Will!

    30 LBs!? Way to go!

  9. Mandela November 9, 2013 at 8:07 pm #

    AMAZING blog post.. There definitely needs to be more people like that out there. Happy I stumbled upon this! =)

  10. Anne November 21, 2013 at 4:14 pm #

    Just wanted to say how wonderful I find this blog! I continually send your posts to my 16 year old son and have recommended it to all of my friends. You make being “good” also seem really cool! I especially love this post, as we would all miss out on so many opportunities to meet amazing people if we judged first!

  11. Lefa Albert Chamb December 5, 2013 at 1:25 pm #

    I was so inspired by this blog, there are good men in this world and love is still real.

  12. Wilfred January 15, 2014 at 8:45 pm #

    I love this post and your story. It is cool that you do CrossFit. CF like you and Johanna is very misunderstood by the mainstream and a lot of people bash on it. I have found my passion in CrossFit and looking to compete in the Opens and hopefully Regionals and possibly the GAMES!

  13. Stacey January 19, 2014 at 7:36 pm #

    Great article. I believe it’s truly how Jesus would have responded to Johanna as well. I have just stumbled upon this website because I have a 14 year old who is learning how to be a man from a single-mom. Your insight is non-threatening and “cool”. Thank you.
    Back to Johanna-any chance she would accept Jesus as her Lord and savior and be convicted to leave the porn biz? Just wondering if you’ve had those conversations while at the same time accepting her for who she is (i.e. Woman at the well).
    Thanks again. Keep up the solid, christ-filled blogging.

  14. Hal February 11, 2014 at 4:33 pm #

    Hi Kris

    I came across your blog when I tried to Google “how do I put God first in my life”. I hear it all the time and I sorta understand the concept but I just don’t know how far to take it. You know what I mean?

    Btw, I’m a Southern boy too. I understand concervitive Christian life. So here’s the testimony:

    Moved to WA state w my family after I finish high school, discovered Seattle, moved there, and completely broke out of my sheltered life. I was drinking, drugging, and having sex like the world was coming to an end (I’ve realized now that it is).

    Long story short: prodigal son returns 10 years later with no kids, no STD’s, and no $. Talk about Grace…If I don’t have anything to show for my time there, I did learn this; God and family are the only real things out there.

    This should have been an email, sorry. Anyway, I’m 30 now and I want to put God first.

  15. Kel aka Selwyn February 22, 2014 at 10:33 am #

    Great post, in writing, style, grace, humour and open hearted faith.

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