“A nice guy is a doormat, but a good guy leaves a monument.” Kris Wolfe (Twitter @WolfeAttack)
It was my freshman year at the University of Missouri. I was far from home. Though I never would’ve done something like this before, I walked by a table on campus and picked up a brochure for an organization called RUF. The brochure looked cheap and unorganized, but something leapt off the page and yelled, “GO!” I had spent some time as a loner in high school, so I was resistant to this whole thing of “fellowship.” It wasn’t long before this lil freshman was underneath the wings of some stellar guys I looked up to, but never thought I would be like them. By the end of that year my life was forever changed, and I promised God I would spend the rest of my life giving back in the same way.
I ended up moving to Missouri State University. I helped start a chapter of Theta Chi, and I became a leader in an organization called Icthus. I went overboard. I got inducted into the Student Involvement Hall of Fame, but there was purpose; I had a drive to give back. By my senior year, I had so many guys who came up to me and told me I helped change their lives. Had I become a man like my mentors? I knew I still had a long way to go.
Maybe it’s pride, but guys don’t like asking for help. It’s like the cliché lost husband and wife scenario, and the husband won’t stop to ask for directions. To get from point A to point B, sometimes we need direction from an outside source. I sought out mentors, counselors, leaders, and started down a new path.
I became a volunteer leader in an organization called Young Life, and I stayed involved in the Theta Chi chapter I helped to create.
I now live in Los Angeles and married the woman of my dreams. Over 4 years ago, I started a group for men in the entertainment industry. This site is about encouraging young men to lead, to be successful, and to live with integrity.
In 2016, I released my first book, 10 Ways To Win A Girl’s Heart.