75 Ways To Become A Better Man


Do you want to become a better man? After re-reading Robert Glover’s No More Mr. Nice Guy, I’m inspired to remedy the Nice Guy Syndrome and start the journey to become a better man (the Good Guy). I started the list, but got some help from my men’s group here in Los Angeles. I hope this inspires you to start your own list. Let go of anything holding you back, and begin moving towards what you’re created to do.

1. Give to people without expectations

2. Be on time

3. Stand up for and protect the people you care most about

4. Set boundaries in relationships

5. Find mentors who will help you

6. Directly deal with problems

7. Be a gentleman to her

8. Take a moment and pray or meditate

9. Don’t talk behind anyone’s back

10. Stop making excuses

11. Give your best

12. Join a men’s group (a fraternity, a bible study, a service organization)

13. Don’t let anyone treat you disrespectfully

14. Workout daily

15. Be transparent and authentic

16. Only settle for the best

17. Go fishing with your dad

18. Become a Big Brother

19. Be true to how you feel

20. Go on a camping trip alone

21. Let go of your act and be your true self

22. Eat healthy

23. Take up a new hobby

24. Recognize you need help from others

25. Be at peace with yourself

26. Go get coffee with someone you respect

27. Ask a girl on a real date

28. Run a 5k

29. Give yourself a pat on the back

30. Get a massage

31. Laugh often

32. Write down affirmations and speak them over yourself…“I’m a powerful man”

33. Go to a therapist or support group

34. Go on a retreat

35. Write in a journal

36. Learn to say “no”

37. Take one step towards your dream

38. Have expectations for yourself

39. Let go and surrender

40. Face your fears and take more risks

41. Be present (put your phone away)

42. Let your defenses down

43. Dwell on good things

44. Vacation more

45. Take a class and learn something new

46. Don’t give up

47. Speak up for yourself

48. Set goals

49. Stop and listen

50. Be thankful

51. Floss everyday

52. Get enough sleep

53. Reach out to family and friends

54. Be generous

55. Be self-aware

56. Watch less TV

57. Reconnect with an old friend

58. Build something with your hands

59. Go outside your comfort zone

60. Let people in

61. Laugh at yourself

62. Release any sense of entitlement

63. Believe God loves you just as you are

64. Be vulnerable with someone

65. Don’t be lukewarm

66. Stop overcommitment

67. Be spontaneous and go on a road trip with friends

68. Forgive someone you’ve held something against

69. Invest in community

70. Read a book

71. Brainstorm more

72. Celebrate and honor others

73. Take a break from social media

74. Accept people as they are

75. Make your needs a priority

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24 Responses to 75 Ways To Become A Better Man

  1. Jarid T January 29, 2014 at 11:03 pm #

    This is an incredible list that includes big things that need to be faced by every man internally, as well as the little things that we can do as men to show love to others. Great post Kris!

  2. Adam Lantelme January 30, 2014 at 4:25 am #

    This is a great list Kris, stoked to have found this blog.

  3. Louise Swart February 20, 2014 at 9:56 am #

    Just love this Chris, and have read many more articles on your blog. Keep going, for sure we need this blog to learn about great relationships, especially for our young adults. I love, love, love that you include God, that’s so awesome!!

    Chris be bold and courageous for Jesus!! Abba smiles down on you friend.God bless you, from a Mom with 3 young adults in South Africa.

  4. David March 27, 2014 at 3:57 pm #

    wow book-marking this! I will need this in the future. I`m listening to August Burns Red while reading this, it`s definitely encouraging! thanks!


  5. Cara November 10, 2014 at 2:26 pm #


  6. Dbakeca Italia April 19, 2015 at 6:18 pm #

    great post.

  7. Putas18 January 18, 2016 at 12:39 pm #

    very good these tips

  8. dIncontri January 18, 2016 at 12:40 pm #

    quite right

  9. Manoj Barma February 1, 2016 at 2:49 pm #

    Once read it, it will be inspire any one

  10. Mondo March 29, 2016 at 4:45 am #

    Don’t some of these conflict with each other?

  11. Tom Nguyen April 27, 2016 at 7:22 pm #

    #11 & #46 are the same. Should double checked it.

    • Kris Wolfe May 11, 2016 at 6:31 pm #

      Looking at it right now. Thanks for the heads up, Tom!

      • Luke July 5, 2017 at 4:26 pm #

        What a chill guy. You’ve been practicing the list. And maybe some people need it twice to ensure remembering the particular thing.

        • Shawn March 13, 2018 at 7:42 pm #

          I agree with you….I struggle everyday with being the best I can be that I sometimes look over quite a few of these. So I LOVE what you wrote.

  12. Vijay Prakash Mathur June 18, 2016 at 1:13 pm #

    All men to follow from teenage times. Must read again and again to follow at least a few All to be acted upon.

  13. justice June 27, 2016 at 7:53 pm #

    This is exclusively marvelous..a good man is a genuine figure display in his own early world.he is a reflection mirror of hope and look very to the one he loves and associate with.

  14. justice June 27, 2016 at 8:01 pm #

    In my hope as a young man ,I have a great desire and wish to be good _decent man to my wife.
    For been a good loving husband denote more than what you displays a happy_joyful _family.your positive calibre could built a lovable decent family Ever.
    So be the man and instill positive in your life at large.

  15. acgogo December 24, 2016 at 8:11 pm #

    Say your sorry not only when you’re wrong but when it will make you the bigger person or will save a friendship.

  16. San November 19, 2017 at 5:25 pm #

    This is really helpful thank you

  17. Niggle April 6, 2018 at 2:20 pm #

    Man,this is so nice of you.
    with this you have inspired me to inspire another person
    God bless you

  18. Temi June 16, 2018 at 12:13 am #

    I love it. I wish many men see this. We need real men again


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