7 Reasons to Become a Gentleman

Become a gentleman

Why am I a gentleman?

I don’t have any doubt in my answer, because my answer remains untouched every time: there’s never been a reason why I shouldn’t be one. 

Every since turning fifteen (which was just last year), I’ve stepped up to a higher standard. I’ll be the first to admit I am by no means perfect, and I meet failure every single day. But, rather than accept short-lived defeat, I press on. 

Unfortunately, gentlemen are no longer the social norm. I suppose somewhere along the line society decided they didn’t need their knights in shinning suits anymore (side note: you don’t need a suit to be a gentleman).

Despite popular belief and what society says, and continues to push, we, the young men of today, are needed, and it’s time our numbers grow. Here are 7 reasons to become a gentleman:

1. Someone has to take the extra steps.

A man takes the necessary steps, but the gentleman takes the extra steps.  Those who strive to do better—to become better—and who take the extra steps, are those who are really needed to take everyone to the next level.

2. You become an influence for today.

Your peers will notice this new-found man, so to say, inside of you, and the higher standards you embody. A gentleman strives for change and thinks, “What can I do to make the world a better place?” This type of man will influence others to do the same.  Your potential influence will rub off onto others, and they will grow. Who knows? We could start a generation of gentlemen.

3. You become a role model for tomorrow. 

I help with a kids’ ministry group called Awana, and these younger kids—especially the boys—look up to me. Talk about humbling. The kids of tomorrow need the influence just as much as our brothers and sisters of today. We’re not just gentleman for ourselves, but for the next generation.

4. You set yourself to a higher standard. 

We live with constant standards and expectations. But, why live by them when we can become better by raising the bar? And I’m not talking about a little bit, but to an unreachable high. Why?

Ideals are like stars

5. To protect. Gentlemen follow the Code of Chivalry. Who else follows this code?  Knights. What do knights do? They protect their king, their church and their people.  A gentleman takes the time to learn the multiple ways one can keep those you love safe. Point is, you’ll have to stand up for what you believe in, and for those you love.  Not everyone will admit they want protection, but perhaps someone to watch their back.

6. You walk closer to God. Now, you may not be a religious man, but this is a key point I need to make. In Christianity, we’re called to be like Christ. Christ, the Man who never sinned.  How can I be like that? Well, we can’t.  But we can try. He was respectful to all, He defended what He believed in, He prepared the way for others, and He loved unconditionally. You don’t have to be a gentleman to walk closer to God, but a person who follows in the footsteps of Christ is sure to walk as a gentleman.

7. She deserves one.

Since the day she was born, she’s thought of herself as a princess. It’s in her heart. And every princess wants a knight to come and save her. Unfortunately, gentlemen—let alone knights— barely exist today, but fortunately for her, you’re becoming one. To be able to offer your girl protection, strength, love, and encouragement is something that every good guy strives for, and so should you. You may not know her now, but when you finally meet, she’ll be happy when she finds out that God’s given her a true man.

It all comes down to the decision to become better. 

Not better than others, but better than yourself.

The only person you can compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday.  Everyone, as stated, will fall short of high standards, but that’s the point. You only succeed after you’ve tasted failure. I may never be able to convince you to become a gentleman, but perhaps you’ll find the motivation to pursue greatness, and to take the extra steps you never thought you’d take.

No matter who you are, my advice to you is this: press on, my fellow young men, press on.


5 Responses to 7 Reasons to Become a Gentleman

  1. Adam May 26, 2016 at 5:30 am #

    There is great honor in living a life of integrity and being different to what’s considered ‘normal’ by today’s standards. Holding ourselves to a higher standard serves as an example to others that there is another path in life, which is based on the age old values which glued our civilized societies together for thousands of years. Likewise by standing out in this way, we attract other people with similar values to us.

    • John Haskins June 4, 2016 at 7:35 pm #

      That is indeed true, my friend!

    • Jean Marc March 23, 2020 at 9:27 am #

      Grande !


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