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5 Ways To Get Over Porn Addiction

phonto (14)So you’ve come to the realization that you don’t want to watch porn anymore, but you realize that giving up porn is bit tougher than you thought?

My credibility for this article? I was a porn addict. Just because I say “was” doesn’t mean I don’t struggle with the thoughts and images that have polluted my brain. I regret what was conditioned into my brain all those years — my perception of women, it became the thing I ran to when I was having a bad day, etc…

… and how many times did I fail and stumble in this epic quest to get over pornography? Only like a trillion times. Each one of those times I would get up and promise myself it’d be different this time, and that I’d kick it in the ass. But again and again, I’d fall. It seemed hopeless and never-ending. But I assure you, there is hope.

Again, this  “5 Ways” list won’t solve the issue of porn addiction — that starts within yourself, and within your deepest character and convictions. This list is more of a guard rail. What is a guard rail? It keeps you on the road. This list is to keep you on the road of being porn-free. Follow and incorporate these ways into your life, and I can almost guarantee that it will be a hell of a lot easier to say “no” to the porn itch:

1. Be open about it, and talk about it with someone who’s not addicted to porn.

I’m not saying go put it on your job resume, but I’m saying have someone to talk to about it. Find a guy with good character you can trust, not someone addicted. The more you hide it, the tougher it will be to deal with it, and you give porn more power to rule over you.  Don’t let porn rule over your life. Porn is not your master. Bring some light onto the secret.  You’ll be surprised by the power of community, when everyone’s actually intentional about helping each other out — you’re three times more likely to carry out something. Stop frontin’ like you don’t watch porn.  Remember, it takes a real man to admit that he’s addicted to porn.

2. Install anti-porn software on your computer and phone.

Accountability.  XXXchurch, Covenant Eyes, and others have anti-porn software that you can install on your computer, phone, and iPad. The software basically sends an email or text to a person you pick to be an accountability partner if you visited any sights that even has the slightest trace of porn or anything adult-themed.

3. Keep yourself busy.

The hours I’ve spend watching porn in my lifetime would probably be equivalent to an associate degree. Seriously. You have so much better and more productive things to do than watch porn. Do your homework, take some dance classes, go for your master’s degree, go volunteer, etc. Actually read a book so when you talk to a woman you can say something intelligent, not just stare at her.

4. Don’t put yourself in tempting situations.

Okay, so do you really need to be up this late at night on the computer alone? Do I really need to click on the Youtube video that has the picture of the girl in the bikini? Open your door when you’re alone with your computer. Don’t lock it. Let’s say you’re addicted to cakes, and you’re trying to get over this crazy cake addiction. Do you put yourself in a bakery? Or the cake section of your grocery store? Hell no. You avoid it. It’s the same with porn. Don’t put yourself in situations where it’s not favorable for you.

5. Pray.

I realize that a lot of readers on this aren’t spiritual and don’t believe in God, but this is honestly what I do. When I do all the other things listed above and I’m still about to veer off that road (screaming in agony, I might add), I pray. I ask God to lift this ridiculous burden off my shoulders, because I realize from the bottom of my heart, I hate what porn made me into. I literally surrender expressions of my sexuality to God. It goes away. If you think I’m playing, try it. Pray to God.

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7 Responses to 5 Ways To Get Over Porn Addiction

  1. Tyler Chinchen March 15, 2014 at 8:34 pm #

    Well stated, Wes. Until this problem is faced head-on men will continue to struggle in relationship and in reaching their full potential. For readers struggling with this problem reach out and get help. Your future will thank you!

    • Wes Moldogo March 17, 2014 at 5:41 am #

      Thx Tyler!!

  2. Nathan March 25, 2014 at 3:29 am #

    Great job Wes. Thanks for your transparency in sharing on this issue. From my own experience counseling guys who have porn addiction, I have found there are some serious issues underlying the addiction that need to be processed through — from abuse to poor self-esteem to issues totally unrelated to sex, like anger. This addiction, like so many others, is emblematic of deeper issues. So I would definitely suggest pastoral counseling or therapy to process through some of the deeper stuff as well. Thanks again for sharing!

    • Wes Moldogo March 26, 2014 at 1:48 am #

      Thanks Nathan!

  3. John zacheus April 24, 2014 at 3:08 pm #

    Thanks for this Wes,am porn addicted for many years let me say; since 8yrs old,well i don’t know how i got into this act,but it became an addict when i have a friend who lure and bring me in to this…..now it as become a norm,not just watch porn alone but Masturbate,i will try my best to apply this 5 ways,i pray to God it work………funny enough i had never had sex,kiss a girl before in my Life……

  4. kartik July 24, 2016 at 6:28 pm #

    its not so easy but the one who watches porn is so addicted to it that his addicted part of brain will think it is very useful and I can increase their power that’s why men are likely to be addicted the solution to the problem is just have a smiley face and do not regret because we are the kids of god and we are doing what he said to us

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