5 Lies Millennials Believe
1. You need the latest and greatest… right now!
One of the saddest pictures of our society is the launch of new iPhones. Social media and television news show hundreds of people lined up to buy it. Waiting a few weeks for the crowds to die down and stock to be resupplied isn’t an option. The hype convinces people they have to have it and they have to be the first.
The truth is you are being fed a lie based on FOMO – fear of missing out. They want you to believe you’re not complete without having the latest and greatest in your pocket… at any cost. The people in these lines skip work and school. Some put the device on a credit card, and with interest, only increases the cost.
The Good Guy knows delaying gratification can let him decide if it’s something he really wants or if he’s just buying into the hype. Once the emotion of the launch has passed, he can make a clear decision on how best to use his hard earned money. If he decides it’s worth it, he uses the money he’s saved to pay cash rather than keeping himself chained to debt.
2. You’re worth it and deserve it.
You’ve worked hard today, you deserve a Frappuccino.
You really should be driving a BMW.
Let’s finance that 60” plasma because you’re worth it.
Advertisers are great at convincing you of your self worth. They tell you that you deserve anything your heart desires. From a cup of coffee to a $100,000 car, they want you to think you’ll feel better about yourself if you have it. They convince you it’s the stuff you have that defines you. Once they get you to make the connection, the financial cost is almost nullified. They know most people will do whatever it takes to get it.
The Good Guy isn’t swayed by this argument because he knows his identity is not found in the stuff he possesses; it’s found in his character and beliefs. Is it wrong for the Good Guy to have a nice car? Absolutely not! He doesn’t get it because of clever marketing. though. He considers whether it’s in his budget so he can still save for rough times and cover his other financial responsibilities. He makes sure it makes sense from a quality standpoint. He also makes sure his job doesn’t become his life so he still has the time, energy, and financial ability to treat his lady like she deserves.
3. It’s all about you.
Closely tied to “You deserve it” is the idea it’s all about you. To an extent marketers are right – it is all about you… getting you to part with your money. This lie is a dangerous one because it creates selfishness. When it’s all about how you feel and what you want, there isn’t room for anyone else.
Take a look at any divisive issue on social media. How much arguing do you see? How much reasoned, rational, and fact-checked discussion do you see? Even news outlets, it seems, have plenty of opinions and excuses, but few well-reasoned thoughts. Take two people immersed in this selfish mindset and have them get married. Is it any wonder the divorce rate is so high?
The Good Guy avoids this lie by realizing the universe doesn’t revolve around him. When things aren’t going smoothly, he asks, “Is my perspective flawed?” instead of…“They need to see it from my point of view because I’m right.” While he’s willing to be open minded, his character allows him to avoid unnecessary conflict. He can rationally and calmly defend his position, but is willing to walk away when the other person can’t. He’ll consider anyone’s point of view and evaluate against his core beliefs. His identity and fulfillment come from developing solid character rather than a solid ego.
4. Your online reputation is critical.
The lie of social media is in three basic parts: 1. You can have a lot of friends and be friends with people you normally wouldn’t be able to, 2. You can be the person you want people to think you are, and 3. You are incredibly influential.
I would need an entire post for each of these points, but let me try to break it down concisely. These lies are built on the foundation of allowing you to create an alter personality. Social media gives you the opportunity to be someone you aren’t, and a lot of people find their identity in it. Self worth is taken from the profile you’ve built for yourself. In a sense, you’ve become your own creator. It’s why we hear stories of lives being ruined or ended because of something that happened online.
The Good Guy uses social media as a tool for communication. That’s it. He’s the same person online as he is is real life. He’s encouraging and uplifting, his character is outstanding. If he engages in a conversation online, it’s the same thing he’d tell you face to face. Since he doesn’t allow social media to define him, he feels no need or compulsion to be connected to it 24/7.
5. Truth is relative.
Relativism is when people take something known or assumed to be true, then manipulate it by defining it from a different perspective. The result? Absolute truth doesn’t exist. We see this today in the way the Constitution is interpreted. The intent of our founding fathers is thrown out in exchange for finding a way to read it that follows the desire of society or political ambition.
The Good Guy builds his core beliefs on absolute truths he can defend. He carefully considers what it means to be a man, how to treat a Lady, and where his faith is placed. Because he has a firm foundation for those values, he’s not tossed around with the tides of social change. He’s confident in who he is and who he wants to become. He’s also confident in the quality of the people that he allows to influence and counsel him along with the quality of the woman he wants to be with.
The Good Guy stands confidently in the midst of all of these lies because he doesn’t allow the emotion of the moment to drive his actions. He lets the emotion pass before evaluating what he hears and making a decision. He’s not afraid to seek counsel from trusted friends. When he makes a mistake (and he will), he looks to find what he can learn from it and further develop his character closer to the man he wants to be.